Disclaimer: I am in no way advocating or saying that you have to look a certain way. My weight loss was just a result from trying to get back in shape.
I really debated on posting about this for a while, and to be frank, I’m still really unsure about this…
I’ve been getting a lot of back handed compliments lately. Usually it’s someone referencing how “fat” or “big” I used to be and that they are “so proud” I lost weight or that I “look so much better now” 😒
Yeah, I get it. I gained weight. It happens. But what these people didn’t see was the stress and unhappiness I felt during my first year as an engineering student in college when I initially gained all the weight. Over the past few years, I found myself in a cycle of being inconsistent and just living a really unhealthy lifestyle. But a year ago, I realized it was time for a change.
I got competitive with myself and started working out more consistently. No matter what happened, I was determined to stay on track. Easy, right? Wrong. It took time and dedication to develop a routine and better habits. It took intrinsic motivation.
In my experience, the most effective reason to get in shape and stay in shape involves pure intrinsic motivation. You have to want it for you, not for anyone or anything else. Sure, wanting that beach body is good enough to get you started, but that type of motivation is fleeting. You need to do it because you truly want to. For me, I just got sick and tired of being sick and tired.
I know it’s intimidating and discouraging at first, but just focus on you. I know it’s easier said than done, but try not to focus on what other people might be thinking. If they are worried about what you are doing, then that is their problem, not yours. Worrying about what haters think will not get you in shape or do the work for you. Only you can do that.